Thursday, June 4, 2009

A Hard Rain is Gonna Fall


Why is it that for some people, it is hard to imagine what another person may be going through?  For instance, I have lost loved ones and while I may not know what it feels like for any other person, I certainly knows what it feels like to lose someone I love.  Given that, I can express my condolences and know that I mean what I say, and the recipient knows that my expression of compassion is heart felt.  I am always a bit befuddled by people who lack empathy for others and under no circumstances can imagine themselves in another's shoes.

Mr. Larger Than Life is one of those people.  He hasn't a clue how others may be feeling, because he couldn't possibly care less that they are feeling or experiencing anything.  When his friend's sister died recently, his major concern was that his friend jump right back into life, and more importantly, get busy entertaining him.  Lord knows the narcissist hates to be alone.

I find myself in a peculiar situation today.  Awakened by the ringing phone this morning, I found myself shocked to be talking to Adult Protective Services about a complaint that someone had kissed Rachel on the lips.  Knowing Rachel, she was the one who invaded the space and initiated the kiss.  Knowing Rachel, she was not playing tonsil hockey, and this was just a smooch; an expression of affection.  Being kissed, and giving kisses is something I had to teach her as an expression of love and affection and let me tell you, it wasn't easy to teach an autistic child to give and allow such a social demonstration of feelings.

Listening to my inner voice, I knew immediately who the coward was that initiated the anonymous complaint against her colleague and brought sorrow and anger down upon this sunny day.  Yes, it had to be the one person employed in that house who I don't like, and she's lodged a complaint to get under her colleague's skin in a manner that will be hurtful and damaging.  This person, let's just call her Flaky for lack of a better term (it's what I've called her since April), has lodged the complaint against Rachel's primary provider.  In doing so, she has brought a boat load of misery upon all of us, but most especially, Rachel's caregiver.  Although her complaint doesn't state that Rachel is being sexually abused, I'm sure she found herself thinking that the rest of us would be as homophobic as she and would be perfectly willing to think that all homosexuals are automatically sexual predators.  I can connect the dots alright, but not in the way she thinks.

This person is about to get a lesson she surely never saw coming.  My husband laughed at me when I said aloud to no one in particular, "I'm about to teach her the real definition of a bitch."

To be continued...



23 comments:

Amy said...

Oh, gosh, does this mean I should never have let my teen boys meet my gay friends??? Oh dear.

PHHHHHPPPPPPPPPPT. You go, Rudee, you teach her what a bitch really is.

SkippyMom said...

This makes me absolutely ill. I swear I wish people would just SHUT UP sometimes and be done with their selves.

I agree with Amy - and if you need backup I will happily drive up and we can show what a "duo bitch" is, because this is just wrong.

I wish I could talk to you b/c I have a similar story with the youngest daughter. It has been 5 years but I still get steamed thinking about it...stupid system.

Pyzahn said...

You go girl. And if you need backup, I've got an Uncle Guido who breaks knee caps.

Peace be with you.

flydragon said...

DAMN.
Is there any way you can get rid of this flake?? Send her packing?? Bury her in the back yard?? I have shovels!!

sue b said...

Excellent. You go, girl!!

Silliyak said...

Perhaps in the interim, you should have someone account for, and lock up all your knitting needles. Just sayin'

betty said...

Oh Rudee, I'm so so sorry. How could ANYONE do such an awful thing. I hope you do show her the definition.. That's a great phrase by the way. I'll follow tomorrow for an update.
P.S. I know what you mean by Mr. Larger than Life.. I knew someone so much like that.
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Gail said...

I am so sorry this had to happen. Give her enough rope and she will hang herself. What goes around, comes around...and all the other sayings that are true.

You shall be the victor. I can tell. Get 'er!!!!

Ruth said...

So sad some people need to get a life adn stop loking for things that are not there. Hugs to you - take care.

Miss T said...

Get her. Get her and bite her.

Stephanie V said...

At least you where it's coming from and who to drop down on. You've got a lot of back-up here!

distracted by shiny objects said...

oooohhhh, I do so love it when folks learn the definitions to words. It's good for the mind.
Will be waiting breathlessly for the sequels, and break a leg....:>)

Rudee said...

You are all such wonderful cheer leaders. Sometime tomorrow, the APS worker will call me. Word has it that she is a very serious woman. That could be good, it could be bad. Once the complaint is in their hands, I've got no say and must allow the investigation to run its course.

You know, mean people suck.

Miss 376 said...

I hope it all gets sorted to your satisfaction. It would be such a shame to lose someone that Rachel obviously feels comfortable with

Brenda said...

So sorry to hear about all of this Rudee. I hope things get better soon. Hugs to you and your family.

Rositta said...

Laws where put in place to protect the innocent but when we live in an age where 6 year old boys can be charged with sexual assault for kissing a little girl what the heck do we expect to happen? It's all in the interpretation of the law isn't? Society has run amok. I hope you can sort that out before things get out of hand...ciao

The Crusty Crone said...

oh no... Once Protective Services gets involved, its all screwed up. Do-Gooders do more harm than good.

Would you think less of me if you saw me rubbing my hands together, cackling gleefully, and wrapping a black cape around my shoulders? I am looking forward to the next installment in this saga. We all want the evil one to get their due!

Jane said...

You get back what you give out in this world. I suspect that Flaky will end up getting what's coming to her one way or another. Meanwhile stay strong, for yourself, Rachel and her 'good' caregiver.

bettyjf1 said...

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Sandy said...

Wow, you go get em'....that stinks!

Jadekitty said...

I sure hope things turn out all right.

Winifred said...

That is so hawful. How can people working in a caring environment care so little about their colleagues. If that's how they behave towards them I wouldn't trust them an inch with anyone vulnerable.

Just go for it Rudee. No holds barred.

Yvo said...

I feel sad for people who can't MYOB or can't see things for what they really are as well... sometimes I really feel if people look beyond the obvious and seek the true intentions behind others' actions, we'd have a lot less conflict and confusion...