Thursday, October 21, 2010

She's on my mind

It crosses my mind that I forgot to give you a review of the movie, Red. My son and I went to see it last Friday, and while it was an OK movie, my advice is wait to see it in DVD release. One thing I learned from my parents is that if you can't say something good about something or someone, it's best to say nothing at all. I will say I'm disappointed that all of the things that made me laugh in the trailers were the best parts of the movie and therefore, I'd already seen the funny parts. Zombieland was better. And free.

Sunday is full moon movie night with my best friend. Since it's the eve of a delicate anniversary for her, and really all of us who loved her daughter, I let her choose the flick. To my complete and utter shock, she has selected, Hereafter. When I asked Fanette if she was sure about this, she said, "what better time could there be?" Hereafter, it is then and between now and Sunday, I'll stock up on tissues.

For the entire summer, numbers and days have been coming up for my friend. Seven. Seven years since we laid her daughter to rest. Twenty seven. The age she would have been right now. Apparently, she's noticed the days have lined up like they haven't in seven years. Her daughter died on Monday the 25th and was buried Friday the 29th. For her, these anniversaries are more painful then previous years and she has been feeling trepidation, particularly with the number seven. She's convinced herself that seven is the amount of years it takes for constant stress to take a toll on a sufferer and make its presence known in the form of something physically horrific.

Though I can't alleviate her burden, nor make her feel better about the number seven, I can be there to watch this movie with her. According to Rodger Ebert, this is an excellent and thoughtful movie from, Clint Eastwood, about what may happen when we die.


Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your friend. It's odd but both my sister and daughter have expressed interest in that movie. I think there's comfort in knowing life goes on from here and we're not completely without those we've lost. Take tissues. Hope all is well

SkippyMom said...

The tsunami scene blew me and Wallene away - i don't if I can handle the movie tomorrow night, but we are going. [First movie in how many years at a full priced theatre? How can we not tho'.]

Rudee please give your friend a hug from me and tell her that thoughts are with her.

And yes, take tissues. I know I am.

Ruth said...

Take nice tissues or a nice big hankie one that has had a drop of lavender oil placed on it.Hugs for both of you.

daylily (Queenmothermamaw) said...

What a wonderful friend you are Rudee.

Stephanie V said...

Thanks for the review of 'Red'. I would be waiting for the DVD anyway.

All those sevens must help to bering meaning to your friend as she deals with her grief. How difficult for her - yet lucky to have a friend like you.

Brenda said...

I hope you give us a review after you see it. And my heart goes out to you both during this time. I remember you doing a blog post awhile back about this. I attended a group session once about the 5 stages of grief. Pretty interesting.. although I think grief is a very personal thing that can't be summed up very well. Hugs!

Sandy said...

This is sad and you are a good friend to her. I can tell. I want to see that movie.